1-2-3 Magic - Thomas W. Phelan, PhD

1-2-3 Magic

By Thomas W. Phelan, PhD

  • Release Date: 2016-02-02
  • Genre: Parenting
Score: 3.5
From 10 Ratings


The gold standard of parenting books

1-2-3 Magic made parenting fun again.”

“My three-year-old has become a different little girl, and she is so much happier now.”

All I have to say is that the ideas in this book really WORK! It really is like magic!”

“Our home has become a much more positive place.”

The sixth edition of the million-copy bestseller 1-2-3 Magic by internationally acclaimed parenting expert Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D. compiles two decades of research and experience into an easy-to-use program designed for parents striving to connect more deeply with their children and help them develop into healthy, functional teenagers and adults. Dr. Phelan breaks down the complex task of parenting into three straightforward steps:

1. Helping your children learn how to control their emotions and refrain from negative behavior, including tantrums, whining, and sibling rivalry
2. Encouraging good behavior in your children and providing positive feedback 
3. Strengthening your relationships with your children to reinforce the natural parent-child bond

You’ll find tools to use in virtually every situation, as well as real-life stories from parents who have successfully navigated common parenting challenges such as reluctance to do chores, talking back, and refusing to go to bed or getting up in the middle of the night. For years, millions of parents from all over the world have used the award-winning 1-2-3 Magic program to help their children develop their emotional intelligence, raise healthier, happier families, and put the fun back into parenting.


  • Heartless and doesn't follow modern evidence-based practices

    By Marty McGuy
    The primary focus of this book is on keeping control through threats. Who wants their kids to live in a world where they're constantly being threatened at every turn by the people who love them? Modern research has proven that punishment-focused discipline models are less effective than those that focus on either positive reinforcement or problem-solving. In short, punishment and threats are fraught with side effects, and constantly focusing your kids on what NOT to do is far less effective than focusing on what TO DO. Find a modern, evidence-based discipline model (for example, look at Alan Kazdin's or Ross Greene's work, depending on your preference) and throw this book in the garbage.